What the "eff" is doing it the right way?
I can't tell you how many times I've heard "doing it the right way" since I've started this journey. I know you all feel me out there. You've heard it too. Let me put this phrase in context for those of you still wondering what I'm talking about.
"""Oh Diz...you look so wonderful! You're taking off weight "the right way". I can tell because your skin isn't saggy and your skin tone is normal. How are you doing it? What kind of diet are you on? You're doing it without help..."the right way"."""
God, I'm so sick of that! When people ask me what diet I'm on, I tell them: I don't diet anymore. I refuse to live my life restricted by a diet. When they ask me how I'm doing it, I tell them the truth...i.e. I ride my stair machine (I named it Vin Diesel) once to twice a day, I do weights and I watch what I eat during the week and eat what I want on the weekends". When they say "Oh, you're doing it without help..." I tell them, you're wrong, I do have help (I just don't mention the band). I also tell them I've attended nutrition classes and met with a nutritionist, etc (which was required before I was banded).
What people need to understand is that the "Right Way" is different for everyone. My right way, is not necessarily your right way. Whatever helps you to achieve your goals for health is the right way damn it! Why do I have to bow to the Politically correct...right way? All of you know my mantra..."political correctness is tyranny with manners" and I am NOT politically correct and never will be.
I am so sick of hearing the term "right way". Those people can take their "right way" and shove it!
Ok...Dizzy feels better now.
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Here! Here! I agree completely. It's amazing to me how judgemental some people can be about how we choose to lose weight. Good for you for not buying into it!
Oh I so know what you mean!
Diz, I agree, they shouldn't be so judgmental... but by the fact that you aren't actually telling them the real truth, maybe deep down you feel its not "the right way" too?
Angi...I've thought a lot about it, and there's about 5 people that know. I work in a facility with 6,000 people who are always up in everyone's business. After seeing what happened with a friend who had gastric bypass (the constant scrutiny, whispering behind her back, etc.) I decided not to tell everyone. I felt it was more important to concentrate on myself and changing my own mindset, learning good habits, etc. than to focus on the comments and scrutiny...also, I still get those, it isn't as bad as it would be if everyone knew.
I also figure that the word will get out someday, and at that time, I'll address it. Until then, this is my business.
P.S. I believe banding was right for me. I'd do it again in a heartbeat.
(Sigh) I do love a good rant - mine or someone else's...
Part of this difficult journey I think, is the conflict between our public and our private personas. Slim jims don't have too much trouble managing the two because whatever their problems are, it's easier not to show them.
We on the other hand are often self-conscious by nature, and being overweight makes us feel we're as exposed as if we were on the tip of the diving board, arms outstretched, saying "Look at me".
Our vulnerability (perceived or real) is such, that the decision on what we tell others, and when to say the vulnerable things about ourselves has got to be OUR privilege.
And if others don't like it they can just bugger off.
Rant finished. Good on ya!
Caroline
Diz Rant... love it!!!
We had a celebrity who said that she had lost her weight through diet and exercise... then the media found out she had been banded and she was called a cheat!!! Since when did anyone have the right to give their opinion of something they know nothing about? Even saying doing it the 'right' way infers they have knowledge... which the undoubtedly don't. I love it when you rant Diz, put's things it to perspective.
:o)
xx
It's thanks to the very celebrity mentioned by Dawn (Fern Britton) that I am where I am - when I realised that the price of the op was not a "celebrity" one, I reckoned that if she could do it, then so could I...
Caroline
That is soooooo true!! My friend keeps saying that and I want to smack her one!! I loved your Diz rant too!!
If it happens to come up in conversation I tell people....maybe. Depends on my mood...some days I just can't be farked going into the ins and outs of this ducks arsehole!!! lol lol
Have a wonderful Christmas Diz!! xx
Diz - just to wish you very happy Christmas, and to thank you for the supportive remarks you've left on my blog this year.
Hug from Caroline
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